Namuhla kunamagama athile avame ukusho into ehluke ngokuphelele ngencazelo. Amagama angaqondwa kahle abantu abaningi. Lapho eqondwa kahle, la magama angaba nethonya elihlakaniphile nelikhuthazayo engqondweni yethu. Ezikhathini eziningi, la magama asetshenziswa njalo ekuphileni kwansuku zonke futhi abantu abaningi bayaphoqeleka ukuthi babhekane nala mazwi ezimpilweni zabo futhi, ngenxa yezimo ezinzima zempilo, baqhubeke nokusebenzisa lawa magama ngaphandle kokwazi incazelo yangempela yala mazwi. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, nginqume ukungena ngemininingwane mayelana ne-3 yala mazwi kulesi sihloko.
#1 ukudumazeka
Ukudumala igama elihlotshaniswa nokudabuka, ukudabuka okulethwa amathemba angafezekanga. Nokho, ekugcineni leli gama lisho okuhluke ngokuphelele. Akukhona mayelana namathemba angafezeki noma ingxenye kuphela, ikakhulukazi mayelana nokuzikhohlisa, inkohliso eyabangelwa isifiso esingakafezwa noma esingasenakwenzeka. Isibonelo, uhlangana nomlingani wakho wangaphambili ngethemba nenkolelo yokuthi angabuyela kuwe. Uma lowo owayenguzakwethu esenqaba lesi sifiso, engasenandaba nawe nhlobo, khona-ke lo owayenguzakwethu uhlakaza inkohliso yokuzibekela yona futhi iqiniso liyavela, iqiniso lokuthi uzikhohlise ngokuzivikela, ukuthi wayephila enkohlisweni, ngakho kungadingeki ukuba umuntu alahle ithemba.
Ekugcineni, UKUPHOXA kubalulekile ekukhuleni komuntu ngokomoya..!!
UKUDUMANA okunjalo kungaba buhlungu kakhulu, kodwa ekugcineni kuhlale kusiza intuthuko yomuntu siqu ngokomoya. Kuphela uma ukhumula imaski yakho futhi ungasazikhohlisi lapho kungenzeka khona ukubuyisela impilo yakho ezindleleni ezinhle.
#2 Bayeke
Lapho bezwa igama elithi dedela, abantu abaningi bacabanga ngokuyeka noma ngisho bakhohlwe umcabango othile, isibonelo umcabango womuntu othandekayo. Futhi, ngithatha isibonelo nozakwethu wangaphambili. Omunye uphelelwe yithemba ngokuphelele - "Ngendlela, elinye igama elinjalo" futhi ngokwengqondo uhlala kuphela nomuntu. Ngeke ukwazi ukuqeda uthando lwakho lwakudala bese uzama ngayo yonke indlela ukukhohlwa lo muntu, ukwazi ukudedela lo muntu. Ikakhulukazi kule nkathi yamanje, lapho sihlaselwa khona ngamaza okudlidliza aphezulu, isihloko sokudedela sivela ngokuphindaphindiwe. Kodwa ukudedela akusho ukuthi kufanele ukhohlwe okuthile, kusho ukuthi UYEKA okuthile—ukunikeza umcabango inkululeko futhi ushiye into injengoba injalo ngaphandle kokuba nethonya elikhudlwana kukho. Kumele umdedele umaqondana ke lokho akusho ukuthi umkhohlwe yilo muntu, okungenzeki nakancane, phela lomuntu ubeyingxenye yempilo yakho, eyingxenye yengqondo yakho.
Ukudedela akukhona ukukhohlwa, kodwa wukuvumela izinto zibe njengoba zinjalo ukuze ukwazi ukudweba empilweni yakho lokho okuhloselwe wena..!!
Ekugcineni, kumayelana nokudedela lo muntu, amshiye yedwa, angabe esaba nethonya kuye futhi akhiphe imicabango engemihle ngalaba bantu abasebancane. Uvumela izinto zihambe ngokukhululeka ukuze uphinde uthole ikhono lokuphila ngokukhululeka. Kuphela uma ukwazi ukuyeka ukwenza izinto zifike empilweni yakho ezihloselwe wena ekugcineni.
Lapho udedela, izinto ezimbalwa obambelela kuzo, yilapho impilo yakho ikhululeka khona..!!
Uma kufanele kube yilo muntu, khona-ke bazobuyela empilweni yakho, uma kungenjalo kuzofika omunye umuntu empilweni yakho, umuntu ohloselwe yena. Uma udedela izinto eziningi, unamathela ezintweni ezimbalwa, ukhululeka futhi udonsa izinto empilweni yakho ezihambisana nesimo sakho sengqondo uma udlula, uyavuzwa.
#3 Thuthukisa
Uma sicabanga ngegama elithi ukuguquguquka, ngokuvamile sithatha ngokuthi libhekisela ekuthuthukeni komuntu siqu, isibonelo ukwakhiwa kwesimo sokwazi esithuthuke kakhulu. Kodwa ukuthuthukiswa ekugcineni kubhekisela kokuthile okuhluke ngokuphelele, ikakhulukazi uma udlulisela leli gama kithina bantu. Kubhekiselwa ekuthuthukisweni okuhlukile. Ngokwesibonelo, umphefumulo womuntu siqu uzungezwe ithunzi nemicabango engemihle, yona ecindezela ingqondo yethu engokomoya. Lapho umuntu encibilika kakhulu izingxenye zesithunzi, lapho umphefumulo ukhululeka, kulapho umuntu efaka khona iqiniso elengeziwe. Nalapha, nginesibonelo esifanelekayo lapha. Ngemva kokuhlukana kwami ngaleso sikhathi, ngaphuthuma ukuyombona ngemva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa, nginethemba lokuthi uzobuyela kimi. Kodwa wayehlangane nomngane omusha futhi wathi kimina yonke into yayithuthuka.
INTUTHUKO isho ukuvela komuntu, iqiniso lomuntu siqu noma inhloso eyembulekayo bese iba ngokoqobo..!!
Ngaleso sikhathi ngaqonda ukuthi lokhu akubhekiseli ekuthuthukisweni ohlangothini olulodwa, okungukuthi impilo yakhe noma impilo yakhe nesoka lakhe elisha, elithuthukela ebudlelwaneni, kodwa ukuthi impilo yakhe IYAQHUBEKA, iqiniso lakhe lomuntu siqu, elimbulwa kuye. futhi akhulule. Obekuhloselwe bona kuziqaqa kancane kancane kuze kube yilapho le ntuthuko iba yiqiniso, noma kunalokho, idala iqiniso.
