Ukuzindla bekulokhu kwenziwa amasiko ahlukahlukene izinkulungwane zeminyaka futhi njengamanje kuthokozela ukuthandwa okwandayo. Bayanda abantu abazindlayo futhi bathola ukuthuthukiswa ngokomzimba nengqondo. Kodwa ukuzindla kuwuthinta ngezinga elingakanani umzimba nengqondo? Yiziphi izinzuzo zokuzindla nsuku zonke futhi kungani kufanele ngizijwayeze ukuzindla nhlobo? Kulokhu okuthunyelwe ngizokwethula amaqiniso ayi-5 amangalisayo mayelana nokuzindla futhi ngikuchazele ukuthi ukuzindla kukuthinta kanjani ukwazi.

Thola ukuthula kwangaphakathi

Ukuzindla yisimo lapho ungakwazi ukuzola futhi uthole ukuthula kwangaphakathi. Ukuthula nenjabulo yizimo abantu abalwela futhi bazame ukuzifinyelela kukho konke ukuphila kwabo. Abantu abaningi abaqondi ukuthi ukuthula, injabulo nokunye okunjalo kungatholakala kuphela ngaphakathi. Ingaphandle, izimo ezibonakalayo zikwanelisa kuphela isikhathi esifushane. Kodwa injabulo yangempela ehlala njalo ayitholakali ngokuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo, kodwa ngokuzithiba, umusa, ukuzithanda nokulinganisela kwangaphakathi.

Ekuzindleni, ingqondo yakho izola futhi ungakwazi ukugxila ngokunembile kulawa magugu. Uma nje uzindla imizuzu engama-20 ngosuku, kuzoba nomthelela omuhle kakhulu ekuqapheleni kwakho. Uba nokuthula, ukhululeke futhi ungakwazi ukubhekana nezinkinga zansuku zonke kangcono kakhulu.

Nip izinqumo ku-bud

Izahlulelo ziyisizathu sempi nenzondo, ngenxa yalesi sizathu kubalulekile ukuthi ukhiphe izahlulelo zakho ku-bud. Ngokombono onomdlandla, ukwahlulela kumelela izifunda eziminyene ngamandla kanye nezimo eziminyene ngamandla noma amandla adlidliza ngamaza aphansi ahlala elimaza isisekelo esikhona somuntu ngoba ehlisa izinga lokudlidliza komuntu siqu. Yonke into ekhona iqukethe ukwazi kuphela, yona equkethe amandla adlidliza ngamaza ahlukene.

I-Positivity yanoma yiluphi uhlobo imelela amandla okudlidliza okuphezulu noma amandla azulazula ngefrikhwensi ephezulu futhi ukungabi nandaba kubhekisela kumandla okudlidliza okuphansi noma amandla azungezayo ngefrikhwensi encishisiwe. Ngokushesha nje lapho sahlulela okuthile, sinciphisa ngokuzenzakalelayo izinga lethu lamandla. Lokhu futhi kungenye yezinkinga ezinkulu emphakathini wethu namuhla. Abantu abaningi bahlulela yonke into nawo wonke umuntu; noma yini engahambisani nemibono yabo noma umbono wezwe iyalahlwa futhi kuhlekwe ngaphandle kwesizathu. Ngokwenza kanjalo, awunciphisi amakhono akho engqondo kuphela, kodwa futhi unciphisa, noma kunalokho unciphisa, ukuphila komunye umuntu kube kancane.

Ekuzindleni kwansuku zonke uzuza ukuzola kwangaphakathi futhi uyabona ukuthi ukwahlulela kubangela ukulimala kuphela. Ube sewenza into engahambisani nokulindelwe yizinkumbi, into engavamile kubantu abaningi futhi uthole ukwazi ingxenye ehlukile yempilo. Uvula ingqondo yakho ngokuvumela umcabango wokuzindla ukuba ube khona ngokomzimba.

Ikhono elithuthukisiwe lokugxilisa ingqondo

Kunabantu abakuthola kunzima ukugxila kokuthile isikhathi eside, kodwa kunezindlela ezihlukahlukene zokuthuthukisa ikhono lakho lokugxilisa ingqondo. Ukuzindla kuwufanele kakhulu lo mgomo. Ekuzindleni uthola ukuthula futhi ugxile esimweni sakho sangaphakathi. Awuzivumeli ukuthonywa izimo zangaphandle futhi ugxile ngokuphelele ekuthuleni kwakho kwangaphakathi. Abacwaningi abahlukahlukene sebevele bathole ukuthi ukuzindla kwansuku zonke kuthuthukisa ngokusobala ukwakheka kwezindawo ezahlukahlukene zobuchopho. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuzindla nsuku zonke kuqinisekisa ukuthi izindawo ezihambisanayo zobuchopho zixhumeke kangcono komunye nomunye.

Thuthukisa impilo yakho

Ngaphezu kokwandisa ikhono lokugxilisa ingqondo, ukuzindla kubuye kube nomthelela onamandla kumqondo womuntu siqu futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukwakheka komzimba. Ukugula kuvela ngokuyinhloko emizimbeni yethu ecashile noma emicabangweni yethu, yona enethonya elinamandla ekubeni khona kwethu okungabonakali. Ngokushesha nje lapho umzimba wethu onomdlandla usugcwele ngokweqile ngenxa yokuqina kwamandla (ukucindezeleka, intukuthelo, inzondo noma izimo ezingezinhle), idlulisela ukungcola okunamandla emzimbeni wenyama, umphumela ngokuvamile kuba yizifo ezibangelwa amasosha omzimba abuthaka (amasosha omzimba abuthakathaka). uhlelo luhlala luwumphumela womzimba onamandla obuthakathaka).

Ngokuzindla nsuku zonke, umzimba wakho uyancipha futhi amasosha akho omzimba ayaqina. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izinga lakho lokudlidliza liyakhuphuka ekuzindleni. Izingubo ezicashile ziba lula futhi izifo zincipha. Konke ukuhlupheka kanye nayo yonke injabulo kuhlala kuvela kuqala emicabangweni yethu. Ngenxa yalokhu, kubalulekile ukuba sinake isimo semicabango yethu. Ngakho-ke ukuzindla kunethonya elinamandla kakhulu empilweni yethu, ngoba ukuzola kwangaphakathi nokuthula kwangaphakathi umuntu akuzuza ekuzindleni kunomphumela oqinile ku-psyche yakhe futhi lokhu kuba nethonya elihle empilweni yethu engokwenyama.

Ukuzithola uzindla

Ukuzindla kumayelana nokuba nguwe futhi kancane kancane kucace ukuthi ungubani lowo. Lesi sisho sivela kusazi sebhayoloji yamangqamuzana uJon Kabat-Zinn futhi siqukethe iqiniso eliningi. Ezweni lanamuhla kunzima kakhulu ukuzithola, ngoba emhlabeni wethu wonxiwankulu umqondo wokuzazisa uyabusa kunesimo somoya sangempela somuntu.

Yonke into igxile emalini futhi thina bantu sitshelwa ngokungaqondile ukuthi imali iyimpahla eyigugu kakhulu emhlabeni wethu. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kunabantu abaningi abagxile ekubukekeni kuphela, ezintweni ezibonakalayo, kunokuba bagxile ekuthuleni kwangaphakathi. Uvamise ukwenza ngezimiso ze-supra-causal (egoistic) futhi uhlonze kakhulu ngomzimba wakho. Kepha awuwona umzimba, kepha ingqondo/ukuqonda okubheka/okubusa umzimba wakho. Umoya ubusa phezu kwendaba hhayi ngenye indlela. Singabantu bakamoya/ngengqondo abahlangabezana nokuba ngumuntu futhi yilapho kanye umsuka wayo yonke into ilele khona. Ukuqaphela bekulokhu kukhona futhi kuzohlala kukhona, ngoba konke kuvela ekuqapheleni kuphela. Njengoba kubonakala ngale ndlela, umhlaba wenyama esibhekana nawo nsuku zonke uwumfeketho nje, ngoba ekujuleni kwegobolondo lazo zonke izifundazwe kukhona izifunda ezinamandla kuphela.

Lokhu esikubiza ngodaba ekugcineni amandla nje afingqiwe. Amandla anezinga lokudlidliza eliminyene kangangokuthi abonakala ebalulekile kithi. Kodwa-ke, i-matter ekugcineni ingamandla nje adlidliza ngefrikhwensi ephansi kakhulu. Wake wazibuza ukuthi ungubani ngempela, kungani ulapha nokuthi uyini umsebenzi wakho? Zonke lezi zimpendulo sezivele zikhona futhi zifihliwe ngaphakathi kuwe. Ngosizo lokuzindla sisondela isinyathelo esisodwa eduze nemvelo yethu yangempela futhi singabona ngokucacile nangokwengeziwe ngemuva kwesihenqo sempilo.