Ukuzithanda okuqinile kwakha isisekelo sempilo lapho singagcini nje ngokuthola inala, ukuthula nenjabulo, kodwa futhi siheha izimo ezimpilweni zethu ezingasekelwe ekuntuleni, kodwa ezikhathini eziningi ezihambisana nokuzithanda kwethu. Noma kunjalo, ezweni lanamuhla eliqhutshwa uhlelo, bambalwa kakhulu abantu abanomuzwa onamandla wokuzithanda (Ukuntuleka kokuxhumana nemvelo, cishe noma yiluphi ulwazi ngemvelaphi yomuntu - engazi ngobungqayizivele nobukhethekile bomuntu), ...

Njengoba kushiwo izikhathi eziningana kwezinye zezihloko zami, ukuzithanda kuwumthombo wamandla okuphila abantu abambalwa abawasebenzisayo namuhla. Kulo mongo, ngenxa yesistimu ye-sham kanye nokusebenza ngokweqile okuhlobene komqondo wethu we-EGO, kuhlanganiswe nesimo esihlobene ne-diharmonious conditioning, sivame ...

Njengoba kaningi kushiwo emibhalweni yami, wonke umuntu unemvamisa yokudlidliza ngakunye; ukunemba, ngisho nesimo somuntu sokwazi, okuvela kuso iqiniso, sinezakho ukudlidliza. Lapha umuntu ubuye athande ukukhuluma ngesimo somfutho, esisengandisa noma sinciphise imvamisa yaso. Imicabango engalungile inciphisa ukuvama kwethu, umphumela uwukucindezelwa komzimba wethu onamandla, omele umthwalo odluliselwa emzimbeni wethu wenyama. Imicabango emihle yandisa imvamisa yethu, okuholela ekutheni a ...

Ukuzithanda, isihloko abantu abaningi abasabhekene naso njengamanje. Umuntu akufanele afanise ukuzithanda nokuzikhukhumeza, ukuzazisa noma i-narcissism; okuphambene empeleni kunjalo. Ukuzithanda kubalulekile ukuze umuntu achume, ukuze afezeke isimo sokuqaphela lapho kuvela khona iqiniso elihle. Abantu abangazithandi, abanokuzethemba okuncane, ...

Uthando luyisisekelo sakho konke ukuphulukiswa. Ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuzithanda kwethu kuyisici esibalulekile uma kuziwa empilweni yethu. Uma sizithanda kakhulu, sizamukela futhi sizamukela kulo mongo, kuzoba kuhle kakhulu kumthethosisekelo wethu womzimba nengqondo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukuzithanda okuqinile kuholela ekufinyeleleni okungcono kakhulu kwabanye abantu kanye nendawo yethu yenhlalo jikelele. Njengangaphakathi, kanjalo ngaphandle. Ukuzithanda kwethu siqu kudluliselwa ngokushesha emhlabeni wethu wangaphandle. Umphumela wukuthi, okokuqala, sibheka impilo kusukela esimweni esihle sokuqaphela futhi, okwesibili, ngalo mphumela siheha yonke into ekuphileni kwethu okusenza sizizwe silungile. ...

Kule nkathi yama-high-frequency, abantu abaningi ngokwengeziwe bahlangana nabalingani babo bomphefumulo noma baqaphela abalingani babo bomphefumulo, abaye bahlangana nabo kaningi ngenxa yezenzo ezingenakubalwa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abantu baphinde bahlangane nomphefumulo wabo okabili, inqubo eyinkimbinkimbi evame ukuhlotshaniswa nokuhlupheka okuningi, futhi ngokuvamile bahlangana nomphefumulo wabo owele. Ngichaza umehluko phakathi kokuxhumana komphefumulo okubili ngokuningiliziwe kulesi sihloko: "Kungani imiphefumulo emibili nemiphefumulo engamawele ingafani (inqubo yomphefumulo wamawele - iqiniso - umlingani womphefumulo)". ...