Wonke umuntu unalokho okubizwa ngokuthi izingxenye zethunzi. Ekugcineni, izingxenye zethunzi ziyizici ezingezinhle zomuntu, izinhlangothi zethunzi, izinhlelo ezingezinhle ezigxiliswe ngokujulile egobolondweni lawo wonke umuntu. Kulo mongo, lezi zingxenye zethunzi ziwumphumela wengqondo yethu enobukhulu obuthathu, yobugovu futhi zisibonisa ukuntula kwethu ukuzamukela, ukuntula kwethu ukuzithanda futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuntula kwethu ukuxhumana nobuyena bukaNkulunkulu. Kodwa-ke, sivame ukucindezela izingxenye zethu zethunzi, asikwazi ukuzamukela futhi singakunaki ukuhlupheka kwethu ngenxa yazo.

Ukuzithola - ukwamukela i-ego yakho

Indlela eya ekuziphulukiseni komuntu siqu noma indlela yokukwazi ukuma futhi emandleni okuzithanda komuntu siqu (ukuba okuphelele) idinga ngempela ukwamukelwa kwezingxenye zesithunzi somuntu. Izingxenye zethunzi zingalinganiswa nemicabango engemihle esiyiphila ngokuphindaphindiwe, imikhuba ecasulayo, izinqubo zokucabanga eziphansi ezisezingqondweni zethu. Okungatheng ziqinisiwe futhi zithuthwa ngokuphindaphindiwe ekwazini kwethu kwansuku zonke. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ngenxa yamaza azo okudlidliza aphansi, izingxenye zethunzi nazo ziyizizathu zokuzalanisa okunamandla, noma kunalokho zifinyeza isisekelo somuntu esinamandla. Kulo mongo, lapho isisekelo sethu esinamandla siminyene, yilapho ukugeleza kwemvelo kwamandla ethu kuvinjelwa, futhi yilapho isimo sethu somzimba sihlupheka kakhulu. Noma kunjalo, umuntu akufanele enze amademoni, enqabe noma acindezele izingxenye zethunzi. Ikakhulukazi uma kukhulunywa nge-ego, abantu abaningi bayibona “njengodeveli” noma “idemoni”, okuyingxenye nje yeqiniso. Yiqiniso, idemoni, isibonelo, liyisidalwa esinezinhloso ezimbi kuphela, esenza izenzo ezimbi futhi esilimaza abantu. Uma umuntu elimaza omunye umuntu, angathi lowo muntu ubezenza idimoni ngaleso sikhathi, ngoba idemoni liyokwenza lokho. Njengoba i-ego yethu ivame ukusilinga thina bantu ukuba senze izinto ezingezinhle ngenxa yokukhiqizwa kwemicabango/izenzo eziminyene ngamandla, lokhu kulinganisa nengqondo yobudeveli.

Ngokwamukela izingxenye zethu zethunzi, siya ngokuya singena ekuzithandeni..!!

Noma kunjalo, ekupheleni kosuku, lo mqondo usebenzela ukukhula kwethu siqu futhi uhlale usikhombisa ukuntula kwethu ukuxhumana nobuyena obuphezulu, nezici zethu zaphezulu. Kusibonisa amaphutha ethu futhi, ngokusekelwe kulokhu, kusenza sikwazi ukubona izingxenye zethu zethunzi. Kulo mongo, akukhona mayelana nokwenqatshwa okuqinile noma ukuqedwa komqondo wethu wokuzazisa. Kumayelana nokwamukela lomqondo nazo zonke izingxenye zawo ezingezinhle, uwuthande, uwuhloniphe futhi ubonge ngokuba yingxenye yempilo yakho. Lesi isinyathelo esibalulekile sokusondela ekuguquleni izici zakho ezingezinhle.

Ukulahlwa kwezingxenye zomthunzi womuntu kungenxa yokuntula ukuzithanda..!!

Awukwazi ukuxazulula noma ukuguqula izici ezingezinhle uma uzicindezile, ungazazi futhi ungaze uzifake emadimoni. Kuhlala kumayelana nokwamukela izimo zakho, impilo yakho. Uma unezici zakho ozenqaba ngokuphelele noma ongavumelani nazo nhlobo, kusho ukuthi ekugcineni uzenqaba ngokwezinga elithile, njengoba lezi ziyingxenye yakho. Ukuzithanda sekuphinde kube yigama eliyisihluthulelo lapha. Ekugcineni, impilo yomuntu imayelana nokuzitholela uthando lwakhe futhi. Noma ubani ozithanda yena uthanda abantu bakubo, noma kubonakala sengathi isimo sakhe sangaphakathi sengqondo/ngokomzwelo sihlale sidluliselwa ezweni elingaphandle futhi ngokuphambene nalokho.

Ngokuzithanda nokwamukela uthuthukisa amandla akho engqondo..!!

Ngalesi sizathu kubalulekile ukwamukela nokuthanda impilo yakho nazo zonke izinhlangothi zayo ezimnyama. Kuphela uma usukwazi ukwenza lokhu futhi lapho uzokwazi ukuzithuthukisa kakhulu futhi lokho ekugcineni kumayelana, UZITHUTHUKISA wena ngokwakho. Uma ufuna ukuzithanda wena, zithande wena ngokuphelele, thanda yonke into ngawe, ngisho nezinto obuzinqabile ngaphambili. Uma uhlanganisa lezi zingxenye futhi uzivumele, qala ukuzithanda, khona-ke uzokwenza ukuthi ukuthuthukiswa kwamandla akho aphelele engqondo. Unalokhu engqondweni, hlala unempilo, ujabule futhi uphile ukuphila ngokuvumelana.