Ukudedela kuyisihloko esibalulekile cishe wonke umuntu aphoqeleka ukuthi abhekane nesikhathi esithile empilweni yakhe. Kodwa-ke, lesi sihloko sivame ukuhunyushwa ngokungalungile ngokuphelele, sihlotshaniswa nokuhlupheka / ubuhlungu benhliziyo / ukulahlekelwa okuningi futhi singakwazi nokuhambisana nabanye abantu empilweni yabo yonke. Kulo mongo, ukudedela kungase futhi kubhekisele ezimweni eziningi zempilo, izehlakalo kanye nemiphumela yokudalelwa noma ngisho nakubantu owake waba nesibopho esijulile nabo, yebo, ngokunokwenzeka ngisho nabalingane bangaphambili, umuntu angeke esabakhohlwa kulokhu. umqondo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngakho-ke ngokuvamile kumayelana nobudlelwano obuhlulekile, ubudlelwano bothando bangaphambili umuntu ayengeke abuqede. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, isihloko sokudedela singaphinde sihlobane nabantu abangasekho, izimo zokuphila zangaphambili, izimo zezindlu, izimo zasemsebenzini, ubusha bomuntu obudlule, noma, ngokwesibonelo, namaphupho ahluleke ukufezeka kuze kube manje ngenxa yesimo somuntu. izinkinga ezingokwengqondo. Ngakho-ke ubuciko bokukhulula kuwubuciko obunzima kakhulu, isifundo sempilo esibonakala sinzima okufanele sifundwe. Kodwa uma ukwazi ukwenza kahle lobu buciko futhi, khona-ke izindlela ziyavuleka ongeke neze uziqagele emaphusheni akho angaka.

Kusho ukuthini ngempela ukudedela?!

Ngaphambi kokuthi ngingene kokuthi kungani ukudedela kungenye yezifundo ezibaluleke kakhulu empilweni futhi kungani, ngokufunda lobu buciko, umuntu edonsa yonke into empilweni yakhe ekugcineni okungokwakhe, ngichaza ukuthi igama elithi ukudedela limayelana nani. Ekugcineni, njengoba sekushiwo ngesikhathi sombhalo, leli gama ngokuvamile aliqondwa kahle futhi lihlotshaniswa nokuhlupheka/ukulahlekelwa okukhulu. Kodwa ukudedela akuhlangene nokulahlekelwa. Yebo ungalithatha kanjalo igama mathupha futhi udonsele ukuhlupheka okuningi kulo ngokusekelwe kulokho, kodwa ekugcineni leli gama libhekisela kakhulu enala ongayibuyisela empilweni yakho ngokuvumela izinto zibe njengoba zinjalo ngesikhathi. ekupheleni kosuku. YIdedele—yiyeke, ngakho lesi sihloko asikona neze ukukhohlwa noma yisiphi isimo sokuphila, noma yimuphi umlingani wangaphambili, noma mayelana nokunqoba unomphela ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngokukukhohlwa/ukukucindezela, kodwa kunalokho simayelana nokuvumela okuthile kube lokho okunikeza ukuthula kwengqondo. isimo umuntu okwamanje asadonsa kanzima kuso ukuhlupheka, isimo lapho umuntu engasanikezi amandla, angasaqondisi ukugxila kwakhe kuso futhi angabe esaba nethonya elibonakalayo kuso.

Kuphela uma ukwazi ukudedela futhi, ukuvala ngesimo, lapho uzokwazi futhi ukudonsa inala empilweni yakho..!!

Uma ukhathazekile ngokudedela, kubalulekile futhi ukuqonda ukuthi ekugcineni kosuku ungakwazi kuphela ukudonsa inala, uthando, injabulo nokuzwana emuva empilweni yakho ngokufunda futhi ezimweni ezihambisanayo zengqondo, ukuhlupheka kungasekho.

Ukudedela kumayelana nokudedela umuntu noma isimo, ukwamukela iqiniso ngokungenamibandela, nokubona okwedlule njengesifundo esidingekayo ekuvuthweni kwesimo somuntu somoya..!!

Isibonelo, uma ukudedela kubhekisela kumlingani wangaphambili, ebuhlotsheni obuhlulekile ongeke usakwazi ukubuqeda nganoma iyiphi indlela, kusho ukuthi uvumela lowo muntu ukuba abe, mayelana nokumshiya yedwa, angabi nalo ithonya kumuntu okukhulunywa ngaye. futhi ivumela imicabango engemihle yalo muntu ukuthi ingene esithubeni. Uvumela lesi simo ukuba sithathe inkambo yaso ukuze ukwazi ukubuyisela amandla okuphila ngokukhululeka ngaphandle kokuhlala uzizwa unecala mayelana nesikhathi sakho esidlule esingokwengqondo.

Yeka - Qaphela impilo ehloselwe wena

Abantu abaningi bakuthola kunzima kakhulu ukukuyeka, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa kubantu abashonile noma ngisho nobudlelwano bezothando obuhlulekile. Abantu abaningi ababunqobi ngisho lobu buhlungu futhi ngenxa yalokho bathatha izimpilo zabo (njengoba kunjalo, ukuzibulala kuyabulala emjikelezweni womuntu wokuphindukuzalwa futhi kuvimbela kakhulu inqubo yomuntu siqu yokuzalwa komuntu). Kepha kufanele uqonde kulokhu ukuthi ngokudedela kuphela ungabuyela empilweni yakho lokho okuhloselwe wena ekugcineni. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekeni kuwe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa kungase kuthwalise ingqondo yakho yamanje, uma uyeka imicabango engemihle yesimo esihambisanayo, uyakwazi ukuphinde ujabule, uvumelane ngenjabulo futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke uma ungakwazi ukukulawula. futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukudala ibhalansi yangaphakathi, khona-ke uzodweba ngokuzenzakalelayo izinto empilweni yakho ezihloselwe wena. Isibonelo nje, uma kufanele udedele umaqondana, lokho akusho ukuthi kufanele ukhohlwe yilo muntu, okuyinto engenzeki nhlobo, phela lo muntu ubeyingxenye yempilo yakho, eyingxenye yengqondo yakho. Uma kufanele kube yilo muntu, khona-ke bazobuyela empilweni yakho, uma kungenjalo kuzofika omunye umuntu empilweni yakho, umuntu ozenzele yena nje (Ezimweni eziningi, kuzongena kuphela umlingani womphefumulo wangempela. - ikakhulukazi amawele empilweni yomuntu siqu). Uma udedela izinto eziningi, unamathela ezintweni ezimbalwa, ukhululeka futhi udonsa izinto empilweni yakho ezihambisana nesimo sakho sengqondo uma udlula, uyavuzwa. Ngakho-ke kufana kakhulu nohlobo lokuhlola, umsebenzi odingekayo wokuphila okufanele wedlule. Ngaphandle kwalokho, kufanele uhlale wazi ukuthi yonke into empilweni yakho yamanje kufanele ibe ngendlela eyiyo. Konke empilweni yomuntu kufanele kube ncamashi okwenzeka njengamanje. Asikho isimo esingenzeka lapho okunye bekungenzeka, ngaphandle kwalokho bekuzokwenzeka okunye.

Ukudedela kuyingxenye ebalulekile yempilo yomuntu futhi ekugcineni kuholela ezintweni ezihloselwe wena..!!

Khona-ke umuntu ubeyobe enze ngendlela ehlukile, umuntu ubeyobona isenzo esihluke ngokuphelele ekuphileni kwakhe futhi, ngenxa yalokho, enze inkambo ehlukile ekuphileni kwakhe. Kulo mongo, ukudedela nakho kuyingxenye yomthetho wendawo yonke, okungukuthi umthetho we Isigqi nokudlidliza. Lo mthetho usho ukuthi izigqi kanye nemijikelezo kuyingxenye ebalulekile yempilo yethu futhi kunethonya elihlala njalo ezimpilweni zethu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lo mthetho uthi yonke into iyandindizela, ukuthi yonke into iyageleza, lolo shintsho luyingxenye ebalulekile futhi ebalulekile yokuphila kwethu.

Uma ujoyina ukugeleza koshintsho, wamukele futhi unqobe ukuqina, uzodonsa inala empilweni yakho, akukho kungabaza ngakho..!!

Izinguquko zihlala zikhona futhi zibalulekile ekuchumeni komuntu. Isibonelo, uma ungeke ukwazi ukuyeka futhi ubanjwe amaphethini engqondo afanayo nsuku zonke, khona-ke uzivalela kulo mthetho futhi uthole ukuma unomphela, okubuye kube nomthelela omubi kumthethosisekelo wethu womzimba nengqondo. Ukuma nokuqina akuzuzisi futhi ekugcineni kuvimbela ukukhula kokuqonda kwethu okungokomoya, kuvimbe amakhono ethu engqondo. Umuntu othi, isibonelo, azilele owayeyisoka/intombi yakhe yakudala futhi ngenxa yalokhu wenza into efanayo nsuku zonke, ucabanga ngalo muntu nsuku zonke, azilile futhi angasakwazi ukuvumela noma yiluphi ushintsho, uzobhubha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. , ngaphandle uma enqoba eyakhe i-deadlock Pattern.

Noma yisiphi isimo empilweni yomuntu kufanele sibe njengoba sinjalo futhi sisebenzele ukukhula komuntu ngokwengqondo nangokomoya..!!

Yiqiniso, izimo ezinjalo zibalulekile ezimpilweni zethu futhi zihlale zikhonza ukuthuthukiswa kwethu ngokomoya kulokhu, kodwa lo mphumela uvela kuphela uma ungathola izifundo zakho kuwo futhi ukwazi ukubuyela kulesi simo, esibonakala ngesimo esiphansi sokudlidliza. ukunqoba. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, ukuyeka ukuphela kosuku kubalulekile ekuchumeni kwethu futhi kuholela enqubweni yethu yokuphulukisa yangaphakathi eyenza inqubekelaphambili enkulu, kuholela ekutheni sidonsele ezimpilweni zethu izinto ezihloselwe thina. Ngalo mqondo hlala unempilo, ujabule futhi uphile ukuphila ngokuvumelana.