Ukuhlanza ingqondo yakho kusho ukuhlanzwa okunamandla kokwazi kwakho ukuze uphinde uthole ukucaca okuphelele futhi ubuyisele isisekelo sakho esinamandla esilinganisweni. Ngokuyisisekelo, lokhu kusho ukukhululwa komzimba, ingqondo nomphefumulo emandleni amnyama, anomthwalo, abangela izifo agxile ngokujulile egobolondweni lethu lezinto ezibonakalayo. Lawa mandla avimba ukugeleza kwethu kwangaphakathi futhi aholele ekutheni ingaphakathi lethu likhishwe ekulinganiseni, amandla afiphaza kakhulu umoya wethu.

Kuvela kanjani lokhu kungcola?

Noma yikuphi ukungcoliswa komqondo womuntu kuvele kuqala ekwazisweni nasezinqubweni zokucabanga eziwumphumela. Konke ku Ubukhona buvela emicabangweni, yonke into esibhekana nayo ekuphileni, zonke izenzo esizenzayo nazo zonke izehlakalo esihlangabezana nazo, zivele kuphela ekwakhekeni kwethu kwengqondo. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, ukwazi nemicabango nakho kumelela iziphathimandla eziphakeme ezikhona. Kuphela ngosizo lokuqaphela kwethu singakwazi ukuzwa izinto futhi sikwazi ukuzwa imizwa. Siyakwazi ukubumba impilo ngokwezifiso zethu ngokuqaphela kwethu (singabadali beqiniso lethu). Empilweni yawo wonke umuntu, kwakheka izinqubo zokucabanga ezingenakubalwa, ezibuye zivuswe imizwelo eyakhayo noma engalungile bese zenziwa isimo. Imicabango iphinde ibe nezimo ezinamandla ezinekhono elikhethekile: zingafinyela noma zinciphise. Ukuminyana okunamandla kubhekisela kukho konke ukunganaki umuntu akwenza kube semthethweni engqondweni yakhe, ngakolunye uhlangothi ukuminyana okunamandla kubhekisela ekuziphatheni okuhle umuntu akubonisa kona ngokwangempela (ukuvumelana, ukuthula, uthando, njll.). Ingqondo ye-egoistic inesibopho sokukhiqiza ukuminyana okunamandla futhi ingqondo yomphefumulo inesibopho sokukhiqiza ukukhanya okunamandla. Thina bantu sihlala sithatha isinyathelo kwesinye salezi zimo zokuqaphela futhi sishintsha njalo izinga lethu lokudlidliza. Ngenxa yalokho, sizigcina sivaleleke emaphethini ezinto ezimbili, sihlukanisa izinto zibe okuhle nokubi futhi singaphansi koshintsho oluqhubekayo lwezinqubo zokucabanga ezivumelanayo/ezinhle nezingavumelani/ezimbi ezinquma izimpilo zethu. Ukungcola okunamandla kuvela ngokuyinhloko ngokwakhiwa kwemicabango engemihle emqondweni womuntu.

Lapho siphila ngaphandle futhi sizenza zibe semthethweni, kulapho zisithwalisa kanzima iqiniso lethu, umphumela uba nengqondo efiphele ehlala ibhekene nokwesaba, ukugula kanye nezinye izimiso ezingezinhle. Ngenxa ye umthetho we-resonance Lokhu kudala ukuzungeza okuya phansi ngoba amandla ahlala edonsa amandla afanayo futhi akhuphuka ngamandla. Uma ngokwengqondo uhambisana nenzondo, kuvela inzondo eyengeziwe futhi okuphambene nalokho, lesi simiso singahlotshaniswa nayo yonke imizwa. Kusukela kulezi zitimela zokucabanga ezingezinhle, bese kuvela inkambo yesenzo edala amaphethini okuziphatha angalungile. Ukuba negethivu ngokuvamile kuzothuntubeza izinzwa zakho futhi kudonse ukugxeka okwengeziwe. Lokhu akubhekiseli nje kuphela esimweni esikhulayo, esibi, sangaphakathi kodwa yonke into idlulisela ngamandla emhlabeni wangaphandle. Lawa mandla athwalisa kanzima ingqondo yakho futhi akwenze uxhugele, umphumela uba "ukuqonda okudemotivated". Uba yivila futhi ungase ungabi naso isifiso sokwenza ezemidlalo, okwenza kube nzima ukudla ukudla okunempilo. Ungase ungaboni phuzu kukho futhi uvumele impilo yakho ishelele. Yonke into ingafakwa kuphela kwikhwalithi yemicabango yakho, ngoba udla kuphela ukudla okungcolile ngenxa yemicabango ehambisana nakho. Ungaphansi kwezidakamizwa zakho futhi awunawo amandla/ugqozi lokukuqeda. Uma usemoyeni enjalo isikhathi eside, ulahlekelwa nakakhulu umbono wakho ocacile ngempilo futhi lokhu kulandelana kancane kancane kukulethela okuningi ngaphandle kwebhalansi yakho.

Kungaqedwa kanjani lokhu kungcola?

Ukuze kususwe lokhu kungcola okunamandla, izici eziningana ziyadingeka. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kubalulekile ukuthi uqale uguqule isisekelo sakho sengqondo. Kufanele ukwazi ukuguqula isimo sakho sokwazi ngoba awukwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga ezivela esimweni sokuqaphela ovaleleke kuso nsuku zonke. Kufanele uguqule umbono wakho ngezinto bese uzama ukugxila futhi esicini esihle sokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kwamanje. Ukwamukela yigama eliyisihluthulelo lapha. Okokuqala nje, kufanele wamukele ububi obhekene nabo njengamanje futhi uqonde ukuthi kufanele kube njengoba bunjalo njengamanje. Kulesi sikhathi esiyingqayizivele, esikhula phakade esihlale sikhona, esikhona futhi esizoba khona, yonke into iphelele njengoba injalo futhi ngeke ibe ngenye indlela, ngaphandle kwalokho bekuyoba okuhlukile, ngaphandle kwalokho ubuyobe uhlangabezana nento ehluke ngokuphelele umzuzu. Kodwa akunjalo, kodwa kufanele ubonge ukuthi ungathola lokhu kuhlupheka noma lokhu kungcola okukuthwalisa kanzima. Kufanele ukwamukele lokhu futhi uqonde ukuthi lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kubalulekile ukuze ufunde kukho, kufanele uqonde ukuthi okwamanje unikezwa ithuba lokuphuma ebumnyameni (izifundo ezibaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni zifundwa ngobuhlungu). Ngemva kwalokho, umuntu kufanele aqonde futhi aqaphele ukuthi kufanele anqobe le mithwalo azithwese yona ngokusebenzisa Ukuhlela kabusha eyakho i-subconscious ingaxazulula. I-subconscious inkulu futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ingxenye efihlekile kakhulu yeqiniso lethu lapho wonke amaphethini okuziphatha anesimo nezinqubo zokucabanga ziqiniswa/zihlelwa. Lezi zitimela zokucabanga ezihleliwe ziyingxenye yokuphila kwethu kwansuku zonke futhi sizama ukuziphilela ngokuphindaphindiwe. Ngenxa yalokhu, le micabango ehambisanayo ifika engqondweni yethu kaninginingi usuku lonke futhi, ezimweni eziningi, idonswa yingqondo yethu. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu kubalulekile ukuhlakaza/ukuguqula le micabango futhi ukufeza lokhu kunamathuba amaningana. Lapho nje imicabango enjalo iphakama, umuntu kufanele agxile ngokuqondile esicini esihle sayo. Isibonelo, usuku nosuku kuvela umcabango wokuthi ungathola umdlavuza ngokushesha, ngoba zitshele ngokushesha ukuthi lokhu ngeke kwenzeke, ukuthi unempilo futhi manje wenza konke ongakwenza ukukunqanda ukuthi kungenzeki.

Ukwesaba ikusasa kuphakama futhi uzitshele ukuthi kukhona okubi okungenzeka maduzane, khona-ke ngaleso sikhathi ugxila ngokushesha kwamanje futhi uzitshele ukuthi akunjalo okwamanje, ukuthi konke kuhamba kahle okwamanje futhi lokho kungokwakho. Ungakwazi ukubumba ikusasa libe ngcono, ukuthi uzithathele ikusasa lakho ezandleni zakho nokuthi uzokwenza okungcono kakhulu empilweni yakho. Okufanayo kusebenza nasekubhemeni. Into ekhohlisayo ngokubhema isitimela esivamile sokucabanga esilokhu singena ekuqapheleni kwakho. Uma umcabango kagwayi uqhamuka lapho uyeka, okuzokwenzeka kaningi ekuqaleni, kufanele ushintshe ngokushesha ukuqwashisa kwakho kokunye. Ungasho ukuthi ekugcineni usubalekile futhi impilo yakho iba ngcono kakhulu. Kodwa ngokushesha nje lapho uvumela umcabango kagwayi, lapho ucabanga isikhathi eside ngakho, isifiso sakho siba namandla, ngoba njengoba ngishilo, imicabango ogxile ekwandiseni amandla, futhi yonke into yenzeka uze uqaphele umcabango ohambisanayo. eqinisweni lakho siqu wenza isenzo esibonakaliswa endizeni ebonakalayo. Yebo, yonke into idinga ukuzimisela okukhulu, kodwa okuhle ngayo ukuthi amandla akho okuzimisela anamandla okuthuthuka ngokushesha okukhulu futhi achume futhi akhule ngemva kwesikhathi esifushane kakhulu. Ngemuva kwesonto elilodwa nje, amandla akho okuzimisela aqina ngokwedlulele futhi kuba lula kakhulu ukubhekana nakho, ingqondo yakho bese iba ngokulinganisela.

Yiziphi izinzuzo zokuhlanza ingqondo yomuntu?

Lapho umuntu ehlanza kakhulu ingqondo yakhe, yilapho ezikhulula ngokwengeziwe emandleni asindayo, ayisindayo, yilapho ezuza khona ukucaca okwengeziwe. Ngokuvamile kucatshangwa ukuthi ukuyeka, isibonelo, kubiza amandla amaningi futhi awuzuzi okuningi. Kucatshangwa ukuthi ngaphandle kwempilo ethuthukisiwe ngeke uzuze ngokwenza ngaphandle nokuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzolahlekelwa yizinga eliphezulu lempilo yakho, kodwa akunjalo, okuphambene kakhulu. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uya ngokuya ucace futhi ucace futhi uzwe ukuthi umzimba, ingqondo nomphefumulo kuya ngokuya kuba nokuzwana. Uzizwa unamandla, unobungqabavu obuningi, amandla akhulayo akunika amandla angaphakathi engeziwe, uba nokulinganisela, ukwazi ukubhekana nezimo, imizwelo nemicabango kangcono kakhulu futhi uthola ikhono lokuphila okwengeziwe manje. Awusabambeki esikhathini esizayo esingesihle noma amaphethini adlule futhi ungenza okuningi kusukela manje. Amandla akho okudala angathuthukiswa kakhulu futhi uqala ukwakha iqiniso elikhulayo nelivumelanayo. Nokho, inzuzo enkulu umuntu ayizuzayo iwukuthola ukucaciseleka kwengqondo. Awukho umuzwa ongcono kunokuba nje ucace ngokwengqondo. Njengoba uqaphela ngokwengeziwe futhi uzwa ukuthi ukuphila kwakho kuza kanjani ekulinganiseni, uthola imizwa engaphezu kokucabanga kwakho siqu, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ungathola ngisho nokuqhuma kwangempela kwenjabulo ekhuthaza umoya wakho siqu. Unciphisa kancane kancane isisekelo sakho esinamandla futhi lokhu kuholela ekubeni ujabule futhi ujabule, ukhuthale kakhulu empilweni futhi ukwazi ukuzwa injabulo eyengeziwe, uthando nenjabulo.

Ngisho noma ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala sengathi isimo esinjalo sikude, ngingakuqinisekisa futhi ngithi kusendaweni nje ekude netshe. Isonto elilodwa nje lokulahla ngokuphelele, ukuhlanzwa okunamandla okuphelele kwanele ukuba kucace kakhulu futhi kuvumelana. Unalokhu engqondweni, hlala unempilo, ujabule futhi uphile ukuphila ngokuvumelana.

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