Ingabe kungenzeka ukuthola ukungafi ngokomzimba? Cishe wonke umuntu uye wabhekana nalo mbuzo othakazelisayo empilweni yakhe, kodwa akukho muntu oke wathola ukuqonda okubalulekile. Ukukwazi ukufeza ukungafi komzimba kungaba umgomo ozuzisa kakhulu futhi ngenxa yalesi sizathu abantu abaningi emlandweni wesintu odlule bebelokhu befuna indlela yokusebenzisa le phrojekthi. Kodwa yini ngempela engemuva kwalomgomo obonakala ungafinyeleleki? Ingabe kungenzeka ngempela ukuba umuntu ongafi ngokomzimba?

Yonke into ephilayo inezici ezingafi!

Ngokuyisisekelo, yonke into ephilayo inezici ezingafi. Njengoba ekugcineni yonke into ekhona inezimo ezinamandla, zona ezinyakazayo ngamaza, wonke umuntu unengxenye engafi, ngoba ekugcineni kosuku wonke umuntu uqukethe lokhu kuhlangana okucashile obelokhu kukhona. Ekujuleni kodaba, ekugcineni olumelela amandla afingqiwe kuphela, kukhona iwebhu enamandla angenamkhawulo enikezwa isimo ngomoya okhaliphile. Lezi zindawo zamandla anomdlandla bezilokhu zikhona, zikhona futhi zisazoqhubeka zikhona. Ngokuyisisekelo, lokhu kuphinde kuhlobane neqiniso lokuthi lezi zifundazwe ezingabonakali, ezihlala ziveza ubukhona bethu, ziqukethe izindlela ezingaphelelwa yisikhathi. Isikhathi-skhathi asithinti lezi zifundazwe, siziphatha ngendlela efanayo nemicabango yethu. Emicabangweni yethu asikho isikhala noma isikhathi, isimo esisho ukuthi singakucabanga konke esikufunayo ngaphandle kokuthi sibe ngaphansi kwanoma yikuphi ukulinganiselwa.

Noma kunjalo, izakhiwo zethu zomzimba zingabola ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kodwa umphefumulo wethu, ubukhona bethu obunembile, abusoze basuka. Ubukhona bethu obunamandla bukhona yonke indawo futhi, ngenxa yesakhiwo saso esingapheli, esinezinhlangothi ezi-5, asincibiliki. Lapho sifa noma lapho umzimba wethu wenyama uhlakazeka futhi sithola lolu shintsho olukhulu lwemvamisa njengomphefumulo ohlanzekile, khona-ke silahlekelwa ukuba khona kwethu ngokomzimba, kodwa isisekelo sethu somqondo siyaqhubeka sikhona (empeleni akukho kufa, kuphela ukuguqulwa kwemvamisa okuholela ekufeni. iqiniso lokuthi sibhekana nesigaba esisha sempilo). Uma uthatha lesi sici enhliziyweni, uyaqonda ukuthi awufi, ngisho noma lesi sici sibhekisela kuphela esisekelweni somuntu esicashile. Kodwa kuthiwani ngomzimba? Umzimba wenyama nawo ungafinyelela esimweni sokungafi.

Ukungafi okungokwenyama kuwumphumela weqiniso elimsulwa ngokuphelele

Konke kungenzeka. Noma yini ongayicabanga nayo ingenzeka. Ukuze ufeze lokhu, ukuze ukwazi ukudala iqiniso eliqinisekile ngokuphelele, noma kunjalo, izidingo ezihlukahlukene kufanele zihlangabezane. Njengoba sekushiwo phakathi nombhalo, umzimba womuntu uqukethe izimo ezinamandla.

Ukuphila kahle/ukudlidliza okuphezulu/amandla okukhanya anoma yiluphi uhlobo akhuphula izinga lethu lokudlidliza kanye nokungabi nandaba/amandla okudlidliza okuphansi/ukuminyana komfutho mthwalo wethu womthethosisekelo ongokomzimba nongokwengqondo futhi kudonsela izinga lethu lokudlidliza egumbini elingaphansi, kufinyeze isimo sethu somfutho. Ukuze kuzuzwe ukungafi, ngakho-ke kuyadingeka ukwandisa/ukuveza izinga lomuntu lokudlidliza ngokusebenzisa i-positivity ngendlela yokuthi umuntu aphinde athathe isimo esingabonakali ngokuphelele, esikhanyayo (umuntu ubonisa ukungafi ngokomzimba ngokoqobo kwakhe siqu). Kulungile, ngizozama ukulisho ngendlela ehlukile. Lapho ujabula kakhulu, yilapho isisekelo sakho samandla sinyakaza ngokushesha/phezulu, uzizwa ulula. Njengoba iqiniso eliphelele lomuntu ekugcineni liqukethe amandla kuphela, umuntu angakwazi futhi ukugomela ukuthi ojabule kakhulu, isisekelo sokuqina somuntu esiphezulu siyanyakaza. Kwesinye isikhathi ufinyelela esimweni esiwohloke kangangokuthi ubukhona bakho bonke buyancipha.

Iqiniso lakho siqu (wonke umuntu ungumdali weqiniso labo) libe selinyakaza ngesivinini esikhulu kangangokuthi ngenxa yalokho umzimba wakho uthola isimo esilula/esicashile ngokuphelele. Bese uqhubeka nokuba khona ngokuphelele njengomuntu onamandla, ongaphelelwa yisikhathi bese uthola amakhono ongeke ukwazi ngisho nokuwacabanga emaphusheni akho angaka. Uma usufinyelele kulesi simo, ungaphinda uzenze umuntu futhi lokhu kwenzeka ngokwehlisa izinga lakho lokudlidliza ngamandla okwazi kwakho siqu. Ngokubona kwami, lokhu kubuye kuchaze isenzakalo sengelosi. Izingelosi zibhekwa njengabantu abaye bafinyelela lesi simo sokungafi ngokuzidela okuphelele (Abantu abaye bafunda ukuzalwa kwabo). Uma ingelosi iphinda yenza izinto ezibonakalayo emhlabeni wenyama, iba nomthelela wendilinga enkulu yokukhanya evele ngaphandle kwendawo bese ithatha isimo senyama. Kodwa amaqhinga alula awasaneli ukufeza isimo esinjalo. Kunezidingo eziningi okumelwe kuhlangatshezwane nazo ukuze kuzuzwe ukungafi ngokomzimba.

Ukudla kuyanquma ngezinga lomuntu lokudlidliza

Okokuqala nje kufanele uthole ukudla kwakho ngendlela efanele. Lokhu kusho ukuthi kufanele udle ukudla okungokwemvelo ngokuphelele. Njengoba yonke into iqukethe izifunda ezinomdlandla, ukudla kwethu nakho kuqukethe amandla kuphela. Kodwa akusikho konke ukudla okunezinga elinempilo noma elilula lokudlidliza. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ukudla okuningi okwenziwa kutholakale kithi ngokuvamile kunezinga eliphansi kakhulu lokudlidliza. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ukudla kwethu kungcoliswe imboni yokudla. Ukudla okuningi kunothiswa ngezithako zamakhemikhali ezingenakubalwa, ezibuye zibe nomthelela omkhulu eqophelweni lokudla ngakunye. Nokho, ukuze uzuze ukungafi ngokomzimba, kubalulekile ukuthi ukwenze ngaphandle kwazo zonke lezi zithasiselo zokwenziwa, ngoba zonke lezi zithasiselo zehlisa kakhulu izinga lethu lokudlidliza (umphumela uba isisekelo esinamandla esiphumela ekuncipheni kwamasosha omzimba, okuthi nawo ikhuthaza izifo).

Ukuze uvumele isisekelo sakho esinamandla sinyakazele phezulu, kufanele udle ngokwemvelo ngangokunokwenzeka, okungukuthi kufanele uphuze amanzi amaningi ahlanzekile, okungcono amanzi ahlanzekile asentwasahlobo, kufanele ukugweme ngokuphelele ukudla okunothiswe ngezithako zamakhemikhali, kufanele udle a izithelo eziningi Yidla imifino emisha kanye nemikhiqizo yokusanhlamvu. Amaprotheni ezilwane kanye namafutha kufanele kugwenywe ngangokunokwenzeka, amaprotheni ezilwane ikakhulukazi aqukethe ama-amino acid akha i-asidi futhi lokhu kuba nomthelela omubi endaweni yethu yamaseli. Uma ukwazi ukuzondla ngokwemvelo ngokuphelele uzothola ukuthi lokhu kunomphumela omuhle kakhulu empilweni yakho ngokomzimba nangokwenyama.

Ingqondo kufanele ikhululeke ekungabazeni nasekwahluleleni

Ukube othile wayengitshele eminyakeni eminingi edlule ukuthi umuntu angathola ukungafi, ngangiyovele ngimoyizele lowo muntu futhi ngimahlulele. Nokho, ngaleso sikhathi ingqondo yami yayingakakhululeki futhi yayiphuphuthekiswe kakhulu ingqondo yami yobugovu. Nokho, ngesinye isikhathi, kwafika isikhathi lapho ngabona khona ukuthi ngangingenalo ilungelo lokwahlulela izimpilo zabanye abantu, ukuthi ngangingavunyelwe ukumamatheka ezweni lemibono yabanye abantu, ngoba lokhu kugcina kungithiya kuphela. ukuthuthukiswa kwakhe. Ngokwesibonelo, kufanele ukuzuze kanjani ukungafi uma umomotheka esihlokweni usuka phansi uye phezulu noma ngisho usongamela kuso? Isimo sengqondo esinjalo esibi sikhiqiza into eyodwa kuphela futhi lokho kuwukuminyana komfutho.

Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ubhekane nakho konke empilweni ngombono, esikhundleni sokwahlulela ngokumpumputhe izwe lemicabango yabanye abantu. Uma ufaka lokhu ngaphakathi futhi ukhiphe ezakho izahlulelo ku-bud, kuzoba nomthelela omkhulu empilweni yakho. Uvula ingqondo yakho futhi ngaleyo ndlela ukwazi ukubhekana nezihloko ezingabonakali ngaphandle kokubandlulula. Ukukholwa kuxhumene ngqo nalezi zahlulelo. Uma ngehlulela okuthize, nami angikwazi ukukholelwa kukho. Kulo mongo, ukungabaza kuvame ukuvela, kodwa ukungabaza kukhawula ingqondo yomuntu futhi kudala imingcele azibekele yona engqondweni yakhe.

Ukuze ubuyele enkolelweni, amaphethini enkolelo yomuntu ahlala enesibopho ngokwengxenye ekudaleni okungokoqobo komuntu. Lokho okholelwa kukho kanye nalokho oqiniseka ngakho 100% kuhlala kubonakala njengeqiniso eqinisweni lakho siqu. Ngokwesibonelo, uma uqiniseka ukuthi ilanga ngokwalo liyabanda futhi ukushisa kubangelwa kuphela ukungqubuzana nomkhathi womhlaba, khona-ke lo mbono uyingxenye yeqiniso lakho, ulwazi oluqaphele njengeqiniso ekuphileni kwakho. Esinye isici esibalulekile amandla ami okuzimisela.Uma, ngokwesibonelo, ngilahla yonke into elimazayo (isibonelo: ngiyeka ukubhema, ngishintsha indlela engidla ngayo, ngilahla zonke izilingo ezehlisa izinga lami lokudlidliza) khona-ke lokhu kuhoxa kushiya i-Willpower yami ikhula kakhulu.

Ukukhishwa kokuqala lokho ukuhlela kabusha kwe-subconscious kudinga amandla amaningi, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzothola ukuthi amandla okuzimisela amasha akunika amandla amakhulu futhi awusafuni ukulahlekelwa yilesi simo esiyingqayizivele. Kudingeka amandla amaningi ukuze kuzuzwe ukungafi futhi ngisho noma kubonakala kungenakwenzeka kubantu abaningi, ngingasho nje ukuthi ukholo lungagudluza izintaba. Konke kuyenzeka, konke ongakucabanga kuyenzeka, konke ongakucabanga kuyabonakala. Ngalo mqondo hlala unempilo, ujabule futhi uphile ukuphila ngokuvumelana.

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