Njengoba sekumenyezelwe esihlokweni sami sosuku lokugcina lwengosi, ngemuva kwezinsuku ezi-2 ezinzima kodwa futhi ngokwengxenye ezijabulisayo (okungenani lokho bekuyisipiliyoni sami somuntu siqu) inyanga yesi-5 yalo nyaka iyasifinyelela. Singabheka phambili kule nyanga entsha e-Gemini, ngoba imemezela ukubonakaliswa kokuqala kwamaphupho empilo entsha. Yonke into manje esefuna ukwembuleka, amaphupho abalulekile kanye nemibono ngempilo - egxilile ekungazini kwethu, manje isiyiswa ekwazini kwethu kwansuku zonke ngendlela ekhethekile. Ngalesi sizathu, manje sekumayelana nokudedela okudala nokwamukela okusha. Le nqubo nayo ibaluleke kakhulu kulo mongo uma kuziwa ekwandiseni unomphela/ukulungisa imvamisa yethu yokudlidliza.
Ekugcineni adedele endala
Asikwazi ukuthuthuka ngokungaguquki noma sihlale unomphela ekudlidlizeni okuphezulu (sakha isimo sokuqaphela unomphela) uma sisabambelele kokwethu okwedlule ngakho-ke singakwazi ukwenza okuthile ezikhathini ezithile zokuphila kwethu. Mayelana nalokhu, izenzakalo ezedlule eziye zaba nomthelela omkhulu kithi futhi zikhona unomphela ekwazini kwethu okuncane ngokuvamile zivimbela ukugcwaliseka kwempilo ehambisana ngokuphelele nemibono yethu. Sinamathela kakhulu emaphethini empilo amadala, agxilile, sihlala sisesimweni sokuqaphela okungekuhle futhi, ngenxa yalokho, asidonseli ezimpilweni zethu lokho esikudingayo ekugcineni ukuze sithuthuke ngokomoya nangokomoya. Kunalokho, sivumela ukubuswa imithwalo esizithwesa yona, sivumele imicabango engemihle ezingqondweni zethu futhi ngokuvamile siwela emizweni yokudabuka, yecala noma ngisho nokwesaba ukulahlekelwa. Kodwa okwedlule akusekho, sekuvele kwenzeka, izenzakalo zokuphila eziye zaphela isikhathi eside futhi zazihloselwe kuphela ukusifundisa isifundo esibalulekile, isimo sokuphila esasisebenza njengesibuko sesimo sethu sangaphakathi. Nokho, ekugcineni sihlala sikhona manje, umzuzu obulokhu ukhona, okhona futhi ozoba khona futhi wona oqhubeka unomphela. Izehlakalo zempilo edlule nazo zenzeka ezimweni zempilo zamanje nezesikhathi esizayo nazo zizokwenzeka esikhathini samanje. Nokho, abantu abaningi bakuthola kunzima ukwamukela isikhathi esedlule ngakho bavame ukuzincisha ukuphila okujabulisayo ababengakwazi ukukudala ngokulungisa eyabo ingqondo. Kulo mongo, kubaluleke kakhulu futhi ukuqonda ukuthi izinguquko neziqalo ezintsha ziyingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila kwethu.
Ngokushesha nje lapho udedela owakho ongemuhle wangaphambili, bheka phambili futhi wamukele izikhathi ezishintshayo, eyakho impilo, kulapho-ke lapho uheha khona izinto empilweni yakho owawuziphupha nje ngaphambili..!!
Kuphela uma sesikwazi ukuvala okwedlule futhi, noma kunalokho sivala ngezimo zempilo yakudala (isb. ukushonelwa othandekayo), kuphela uma sibheka phambili futhi, silungisa kabusha ingqondo yethu futhi samukele izinguquko, lapho-ke sizoklonyeliswa ngokwethu. ukubekezela . Kumayelana nawe nje, iqiniso lakho kanye nokukhula kwakho kwengqondo + ngokomzwelo kanye nalokhu kuthuthukiswa kungaqedwa kuphela lapho singasakuvumeli ukuvinjwa ngokwedlule kwethu. Lapho nje sidedela futhi sivala ngokwedlule, sidonsa ngokuzenzakalelayo ezimpilweni zethu lokho esidalelwe kona ekugcineni.
Bonisa izinto ezintsha
Kunjalo, kufanele ngikusho kuleli qophelo ukuthi ukuhlala unomphela esikhathini sakho esedlule, ngisho kuze kube sekupheleni kwempilo yakho, kungaba yingxenye yohlelo lomphefumulo wakho futhi kuyobe sekuhloselwe wena. Noma kunjalo, awudingi ukunqotshwa ukudalelwa futhi ungakha impilo nganoma yisiphi isikhathi, kunoma iyiphi indawo, ehambelana ngokuphelele nemibono yakho (dizayine isiphetho sakho esikhundleni sokunqotshwa yikho). Kodwa lokhu kwenzeka kuphela lapho sihlakaza izinhlelo/ukuziphatha okudala, okusimeme, samukela ezethu ezedlule futhi sigxilisa ingqondo/sibheke phambili ezikhathini ezinhle, izinguquko kanye nezimo zempilo futhi. Ngalesi sizathu, inyanga entsha yakusasa e-Gemini ilungele ukuthatha lesi sinyathelo ekugcineni. Zibuze ukuthi yini esaqhubeka nokukuhlupha empilweni yakho? Zibuze ukuthi kungani uqhubeka nokuvimba ukuthuthukiswa kwamakhono akho angokomzwelo nangokwengqondo futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, yini egcina lokhu kuvinjelwa. Zibuze ukuthi unesikhathi esingakanani ubambekile emijikelezweni enonya ozenzele yona nokuthi ungagqashula kanjani. Ekugcineni, ungumdali wempilo yakho futhi akekho omunye umuntu ongalungisa kabusha impilo yakho noma abone izinqubo zakho zokucabanga, lawa mandla ahlala kuwe kuphela. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, kuyatuseka ukuthi kusetshenziswe imifuziselo yokudala kanye nemisha yenyanga entsha yakusasa ukuze ukwazi ukudala impilo enhle ngokwengeziwe ngalesi sisekelo.
Sebenzisa imizwa emisha namandla enyanga entsha yakusasa ukuze ukwazi ukulahla izakhiwo ezindala, ezisimeme bese ukwazi ukwamukela izinto ezintsha emoyeni wakho..!!
Sekukonke, uMeyi umemezele isikhathi esinzima soshintsho, isikhathi lapho siyo/singathatha izindlela ezintsha, sazi izinto ezintsha, futhi sibe nemizwa yenkululeko, impumelelo nothando kanye nokubonga. Yingakho ikusasa libaluleke kakhulu. Umemezela ukulungiswa kabusha okuyingqayizivele okuzobeka isisekelo sezikhathi eziphumelelayo nezijabulisayo zesikhathi esizayo. Ngalo mqondo hlala unempilo, ujabule futhi uphile ukuphila ngokuvumelana.
