Njengoba ngike ngasho kaningi emibhalweni yami, eyakho ingqondo isebenza njengozibuthe onamandla odonsa yonke into empilweni yakho ehambisana nayo. Ukwazi kwethu kanye nezinqubo zokucabanga eziwumphumela zisixhumanisa nakho konke okukhona (yonke into eyodwa futhi eyodwa iyikho konke), kusixhumanisa nayo yonke indalo ezingeni elingabonakali (isizathu esisodwa sokuthi kungani imicabango yethu ingafinyelela futhi ibe nomthelela esimweni sokuqoqa ulwazi). Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, eyethu imicabango iwujuqu mayelana nenkambo eqhubekayo yokuphila kwethu, ngoba phela imicabango yethu isenza sikwazi ukuhambisana nokuthile kwasekuqaleni. Lokhu bekungeke kwenzeke ngaphandle kokuqaphela nemicabango, asikwazanga ukudala lutho, asikwazanga ukusiza ngamabomu ukubumba impilo futhi ngenxa yalokho asikwazanga ukudweba izinto ezimpilweni zethu.

Ukukhanga komqondo wakho

Ukuqaphela kugcwele yonke indawo futhi isizathu esiyinhloko sokuvela kokuphila. Ngosizo lwemicabango yethu, singazikhethela ukuthi yini esifuna ukuyiheha ezimpilweni zethu, lokho esifuna ukukuzwa futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, imicabango esifuna ukuyiveza/ukuyibona ezingeni "lezinto ezibonakalayo". Esikucabangayo kulo mongo, imicabango ebusa isimo sethu sokwazi, izinkolelo zangaphakathi, izinkolelo kanye namaqiniso azidalile yikona okunqumayo ekubumbeni izimpilo zethu. Noma kunjalo, abantu abaningi abadali ukuphila okuhambisana ngokuphelele nemibono yabo, kodwa badonsela izimo nezenzakalo zokuphila ekuphileni kwabo okwakungafunwa nhlobo. Ingqondo yethu isebenza njengozibuthe futhi idonsa yonke into empilweni yayo ehambisana nayo. Kodwa ngokuvamile izinkolelo zethu zangaphakathi ezizidalele thina ezithinta kakhulu amandla ethu engqondo okuheha. Ngaphakathi silangazelela ukuphila lapho inala, injabulo nokuzwana kukhona, kodwa ngokuvamile izenzo kanye nokucabanga okuphambene ngokuphelele. Isifiso nje esiyimpoqo senala, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyazi noma ungazi lutho, siwuphawu lokuntula kunokuba inala. Sizizwa kabi, siyaqiniseka ukuthi siphila ngokuswela, sicabanga ngokwemvelo ukuthi ukuntuleka noma isimo esibi sokuqaphela sizoqhubeka sinqoba uma isifiso esihambisanayo singafezekanga, futhi ngenxa yalokho sidonsela ukuntula okwengeziwe ezimpilweni zethu. Ukwakha isifiso nokusithumela ebukhulu bendawo yonke kuyinto enhle impela, kodwa kusebenza kuphela uma siqala ukusondela esifisweni ngomcabango omuhle oyisisekelo bese sidedela isifiso esikhundleni sokuqhubeka nokusikhokhisa ngokwengqondo. ukungabi nandaba.

Umkhathi uhlala ukwethula ngezimo zempilo nezimo ezihambisana nemvamisa yokudlidliza yesimo sakho sokwazi. Lapho ingqondo yakho inyakaza ngokuchichimayo, uthola inala eyengeziwe, lapho ihambisana nokuntula, uhlangabezana nokuswela okwengeziwe..!!

Umkhathi awuzihluleli izifiso zethu, awuzihlukanisi zibe okuhle nokubi, ezimbi nezinhle, kodwa ufeza izifiso ezikhona engqondweni yethu enonembeza/engaphansi. Uma, isibonelo, ufuna umlingani, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo uhlala uziqinisekisa ukuthi uwedwa, ukuthi udinga ngokuphelele umlingani ukuze ajabule futhi, khona-ke ngokuvamile ngeke uthole umlingani noma. Ukwakhiwa kwesifiso sakho noma isifiso sakho kukhokhiswa ukuntula esikhundleni sokugcwala. Umkhathi uzwa nje ukuthi "nginesizungu, anginayo, angiyitholi", "ngingayitholi ngani", "ngiphila ngokushoda, kodwa ngidinga inala" bese inika wena lokho okufisayo, okungukuthi, ukuntula.

Ukudedela kuyigama eliyisihluthulelo uma kuziwa ekugcwalisekeni kwesifiso. Kuphela uma udedela isifiso esakhelwe kahle futhi ungabe usagxila kuso siyofezeka..!!

Isimo sakho sokuqaphela sisasebenza ngokuntula esikhundleni sokuchichima futhi lokho kudonsela ukuntula okwengeziwe empilweni yakho. Ngalesi sizathu, ukuqondanisa isimo somuntu sokuqaphela kubalulekile uma kuziwa ekugcwaliseni izifiso zomuntu. Kumayelana nokushaja izifiso ngemizwa eyakhayo bese uzidedela. Uma umuntu enelisekile ngempilo yakhe futhi ecabanga ukuthi, "Hhayi-ke, ngijabule kakhulu lapho ngikhona, nganeliseke yikho konke enginakho," khona-ke isimo sakho sokwazi singabe sihambisana nenala.

Ukuqondanisa isimo somuntu siqu sokwazi kubalulekile mayelana nokufezeka kwesifiso, ngoba umuntu uhlale edonsa ekuphileni lokho okuhambisana nokuqonda kwakhe ngokomoya..!! 

Uma ngabe ucabange lokhu okulandelayo: Hm, kungaba kuhle ukuba nomlingani, kodwa akudingekile ngempela ngoba nginakho konke futhi ngijabule ngokuphelele " bese ungabe usacabanga ngakho, yeka umcabango uhambe. emuva kweyamanje Gxila isikhashana, khona-ke uzodonsela umlingani empilweni yakho ngokushesha kunalokho ongakubona. Ekugcineni, ukugcwaliseka kwezifiso ezithile kuhlobene kuphela nokuqondisa isimo somuntu siqu sokuqaphela futhi into enhle ngakho ukuthi thina bantu besingakhetha ngokwethu ngokusekelwe emcabangweni wethu wengqondo, ohambisana nami ngokwengqondo. Unalokhu engqondweni, hlala unempilo, waneliseke futhi uphile ukuphila ngokuvumelana.